Oct 12, 2021
On this episode, I share some of my experience on how I fell for the societal pressures of getting married instead of reflecting on whether or not it was an aligned decision. How society views marriage as a big part of this check-list of things people "need" to achieve in order to be successful or feel fulfilled had an affect on me. I fell for the pressure, which had me continuously choose to stay with a hurtful person.
You will never win if you are trying to please society. Instead, do what is right for you!
I also felt the societal judgment of getting divorced. I had the saying, "people these days don't fight for relationships," stuck on loop in my head. It warped my mindset into believing that I had to stay because if I worked hard enough then the relationship would become healthy and work out. I learned that if the marriage is a reflection of unalignment then it will not matter how hard you work for the relationship, it will always be a disaster. I am here to say, YOU ARE ALLOWED TO LEAVE. I wish someone would have told me years ago that you're allowed to leave a relationship if it's not healthy and behaviors are not changing.
I just want people to know that divorce is nothing to be ashamed of. Be proud that you DID NOT stay with a human who wasn't right for you.
p.s. When I talk about how if you are not happy then leave, I would like to clarify that you are responsible for your own happiness, but if the relationship is making you miserable and is unhealthy, stop choosing misery and leave.
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